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How Do I Know When To Take Spiritual Advice?

Anonymous asked:
So I’m not used to healthy spiritual authority in my life. How do I know whether advice from Christian elders is worthy of accepting?

Jed Brewer replied:

Hey my friend,

Great question.  To start, I think we need to ask whether the advice is actually Biblical.

If a pastor or Bible study leader or whoever is trying to convince you to hate gay people, that is bad and unbiblical advice, and you should reject it.  The Bible says we have an obligation to love all people, no matter what.  (Romans 13:8)

Same thing goes when the advice quotes the letter of a verse, but misses the spirit of what’s being said.  So, for example, if someone says, “Jesus said to turn the other cheek so you have to put up with my bad behavior”, they are twisting a verse to say something it doesn’t actually say.  God does not want you, or anyone, to stay in an abusive situation.

And, certainly, the same thing goes when someone is quoting something from the Bible, but that has nothing to do with your life, and they’re trying to put it on you.  So, you know, somebody quoting some obscure verse about clothes or tattoos or long hair to try and tell you that you have to change your appearance.  Jesus didn’t like it when ‘spiritual leaders’ pulled stunts like that, and neither should you.  (Luke 11:46)

But, now, what about when a pastor or mentor or Bible study leader says something to us that is Biblical, in both word, context, and intent, and has a whole heck of a lot to do with our life, and might kinda be true?

I think, in that moment, there are two options.  And which option we choose boils down to the question, “Yes, but do you love me?”

Think of the classic case of a guy hanging outside a burger joint, smoking a cigarette.  And the well-intentioned-but-clueless passerby stops and say, “You know, those things will kill you!  You should quit!!”

Well, now, it’s true.  And it applies.  And You Should Quit.  But, does that person love you?  No.

So, we file that advice under the heading, “Something I’ll look at when I get good and ready.”

But let’s say it’s your best friend who says you should quit.  The one who picked you up when your car died three hours out of town.  The one who sat up with you all night after your boyfriend left.  The one who didn’t stop believing in you when you flunked that class.  The one who helped you move apartments even though it was raining cats and dogs.

Well, if that person offers the advice, I think we actually want to listen.  At the very least, we want to take some time to pray through that advice, and ask the Lord if this is a nudging from Him, because it just might be.   Sure, sometimes, Biblically-based advice from people who love us can be the wrong advice for the moment.  But it’s always going to be worth taking some time to think and pray about it.

So, with Christian elders – to use your term – we need to look at whether or not their advice is Biblical, but, also, whether or not they’ve demonstrated that they love us.  Whether they’ve earned the right to be heard in our lives.  And then we want to pray about it, and ask God to guide us.

And that leads us to one last thing.  You deserve to have Christian leaders in your life who give good advice and who genuinely know and love you.   Don’t settle for less than that.  There’s a wide world of (well-intentioned?) advice-givers who don’t have any interest in your as a person.  But that ain’t useful.

Start asking God to help you find a community where older Christians will take a personal interest in you, and your life, and your growth.  Those communities exist, I promise.  They aren’t always easy to find, and they don’t always meet on Sunday mornings, but they’re out there.  And you deserve to be a part of one.

My Friends In Ministry Are Sleeping In The Same Bed. What Do I Do?

weazworldwide asked you:
hey jed, a friend and i both have friends who are christians in ministry positions but are sleeping in the bed with their girlfriend/boyfriend. they say they’re not having sex and that temptation isn’t an issue, but how should we feel about that? can you suggest any bible passages that may be helpful in talking to them about the issue? love your blog!

Jed Brewer replied:

Hey Weaz,

Sharing a bed, eh?

Well, look, here’s the go-to Bible verse for something like this, but I’d encourage you to read all the way to the end of this post before you act on it:

“Abstain from all appearance of evil.” (1 Thessalonians 5:22, KJV)

The Bible is clear that we should work hard to have a good reputation (c.f. 1 Tim 3:7), and avoiding things that needlessly set other people off is part of that.  Yes, you can sleep in the same bed as someone without having sex.  I can also use an old Jack Daniels bottle to sip water out of while I’m walking on my way to church.  But I don’t do that, because it’s a dumb idea.

You asked how you should feel about what your friends are doing.  I think you should feel that it’s a dumb idea on multiple levels.  It looks really hinky, it *does* increase the level of temptation, and there’s no good reason for it.  However, that doesn’t mean that you should be doing anything about it.

Your friends know this is a bad call on their part.  They do.  And they’re choosing to do it anyway.  They’re also, apparently, telling other people that they’re doing it, which is really, really not good.  Thing is, the person who should be confronting them about this is the person who put them into whatever ministry positions they hold.

This is a situation where your friends need to be rebuked.  They’re wrong, they know they are, and they’re doing it anyway.  That’s not a time for discussion and considering some interesting Bible verses.  That’s a time for dropping the hammer.  I should note that I’m saying this precisely because these are folks in ministry leadership.  We all have struggles, but leadership requires a higher standard of accountability.

This rebuke needs to have some authority behind it.  In other words, it needs to be a word from the boss.  If that isn’t you, then I’d think and pray long and hard before I tried to get in there and deliver one.  ‘Cause I don’t think it would go well.

What you definitely should do is be praying for your friends.  I’ve been around long enough to tell you that the odds are high that this is not gonna end well for them, on a lot of levels.  And they’ll need all the prayer and support they can get, and good friends that will keep on believing in them.

Can God Use Me In The Fashion World?

skyscraperstojesus asked you:
Hi Jed, I have been debating something for awhile and i can’t seem to figure out what to do. I am in high school and want to pursure a career in fashion. I don’t know what God wants me to do, but I want to do what he wants. How do I know if what I want is what he wants? Is it selfish to have a career in fashion instead of say, doing missionary work?

Jed Brewer replied:

Hey sis,

This is a great question, and I like the way you’re asking it, and the angles you’re already seeing related to it.

So, there’s something you want to do.  There’s something God wants you to do.  We aren’t sure if those are the same, and we aren’t sure if our desires are selfish to begin with.  OK, makes sense.

As a thought experiment, let’s ask this: how would you feel if God came to you on a cloud and said, “I am specifically calling you enter the world of fashion and be a light for me there.”  Could you be OK with that?

See, for a lot of people, they figure that something they like, something they have a passion for, can’t be what God wants for them.  That would be too easy!  But God isn’t in the business of crushing dreams.  He’s in the business of guiding and shaping those dreams into something far more incredible than what the dreamer thought was possible.

I am certain God does not want you to enter the world of fashion and sit there like a rock.  But what about working in the fashion world and showing people what God’s love looks like in action?  What about pointing folks who are struggling with drug addiction and eating disorders and crippling insecurity and narcissism to The Lord, and being his hands and feet in that process?  Now we’re talking!

Here’s a thought I’d encourage you to mediate on: anything plus love can change the world.  Absolutely anything.  Being a plumber.  A fashion designer.  An architect.  A model.  If you add God’s love to that vocation, it can become something sacred and redemptive.

You don’t need to have all the answers up front.  It’s ok to know that you love God and dig fashion and take that a step at a time.  If you keep yourself open to God’s leading, step by step, you’ll find him directing your paths.  In fact, he promises to do so:

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” (Proverbs 3:5-6)

That trusting and submitting is a day-by-day process.  We do that a little bit at a time.  And God really will guide you to what he has for you.

But, today, the thing before you is accepting that God made you the kind of gal that loves him and likes haute couture and that that is just right.  Cause, sis, it really is.

What Will Church People Think When They See My Art? What Should *I* Think?!

Anonymous asked:
[Note from Jed: This question comes from a friend of mine who is a film student at a well-known film school.]

I just recently shot a scene of a movie with my close friends, and the scene was a “sex” scene. In it, we kissed, and removed our shirts. Nothing was shown, but I feel like, when people see it, they’re going to judge me. I don’t want them to think I’m easy or a whore. I’m mostly afraid of my church and what they will think. What is your take on that? Am I getting freaked out over nothing? Because I was comfortable with it.

Jed Brewer replied:

Hey sis,

The short answer to your question is that, probably, some people at your church would act uncool if they saw your film.  I’m sorry for that, and, unfortunately, it’s one of those things that goes with being an artist.

The longer answer – and I’d encourage you to think carefully about this, because it will allow you to have some peace – is that there is a difference between propaganda, art, and pornography.

Propaganda tries to tell you what to think, without leaving you a choice.  It tries to bowl you over with emotion and imagery and rhetoric until you must think a certain way.

Pornography tries to tell you what to desire.  And, again, without leaving you a choice.  Its aim is to arouse lust within you, that you must have this thing, or this person.

Art, however, is a dialogue with the audience, and the audience member must decide how to respond.

It would not be a good thing, obviously, for you to participate in creating pornography.  But the problem that we run into is that there’s a difference between Michaelangelo’s statue of David and a Playboy centerfold.  Both are expressions of the human form, and both involve full frontal nudity.  But, one is art, and one is not.

The centerfold is eroticized.  The goal is to arouse lust within the audience, and to leave no choice in the matter.  To be vulgar in the true sense of the word, people pay for pornography with the expectation of getting aroused, and Playboy aims to please.

By contrast, the statue of David is, ultimately, what you make of it.  Is this piece of art about the human body?  About the way we view the Bible through the lens of our own culture?  Something else?  You tell me.

And that leads us to your film.  The purpose of art, very broadly, is to speak to the human condition.  To help us to understand and make peace with what it means to be, well, us.  And that is a worthy goal.  Because, as we understand what it is to be human, we inexorably find ourselves confronted by the image of God within us.  As a smart man said: all truth is God’s truth.

Sex is a part of life.  People have sex (none of us would exist if they didn’t).  And art, as a commentary on life, should reflect that.  Sure, there are ways to do that that are trashy, or in poor taste.  And there are ways to do that are beautiful and transcendent and point to deeper truths.  You, as the artist, have to decide where your work lies on that continuum.

And that’s the final thing: the art you make is, ultimately, a matter of conscience between you and God.  It would be wrong to make pornography, and it would be a bad idea to make propaganda.  And it’s simply adolescent to create art that is needlessly provocative for no good reason.  But in between all those extremes, you have to work out between yourself and God what good, effective art is, and what artistic voice he has given you.  Some of your art may be sexually charged; some may not.  And that’s OK.

People get uncomfortable about art because it isn’t safe.  But neither is God.  As C.S. Lewis wrote, “’Course he isn’t safe.  But he’s good.”  If you’re making art that reflects your Father, it won’t be safe.  But you can and should devote yourself to making it good.

I Keep Hitting Closed Doors. What Do I Do?

jhenna asked you:
Hi Jed, I am 27 and have been trying to finish my bachelor’s degree since I finished high school 10 years ago. Life has pulled me in many different directions causing me to have to start and stop more times than I can count. I was saved about a year ago (such an amazing thing!) and am struggling again with a roadblock to finishing school. Is this God’s way of telling me school is not in His plan for me? Or is it a test? How do I know? I feel so lost at times but I just keep praying. – Jenna

Jed Brewer replied:

Hey Jenna,

I can totally relate to what you’re describing.  You’re trying to do something good – I mean, it’s a really positive thing to have a college degree – and everything just sets itself up to oppose you.  And it really does make you wonder: God, are you trying to give me a hint here?

It’s a frustrating, confusing place to be, and I’m sorry that’s where you’re at.

I think one of the things that confuses us in these kind of situations is that people have told us to look for “open doors”.  When everything lines up, that’s a sure sign that God’s directing us in a certain way.  That’s what they told me, anyway.

And that logic makes sense, I guess, but it doesn’t line up with scripture.  Paul was 100% called by God – in the most literal sense – to preach the Gospel.  And here’s a quick overview of the kind of “open doors” that met him in that work:

“Five times I received…the forty lashes minus one. Three times I was beaten with rods, once I was stoned, three times I was shipwrecked, I spent a night and a day in the open sea, I have been constantly on the move. I have been in danger from rivers, in danger from bandits, in danger from my own countrymen, in danger from Gentiles; in danger in the city, in danger in the country, in danger at sea; and in danger from false brothers.  I have labored and toiled and have often gone without sleep; I have known hunger and thirst and have often gone without food; I have been cold and naked.” (2 Corinthians 11:24-27, NIV)

Wow.  That is hardcore. 

Now, I don’t mention that to discourage you – I highly doubt that a public flogging is in your future.  But I do mention it to say that, if we’re gonna follow the Lord, the “looking for open doors” approach ain’t gonna work.  We need something else.

The something else is this: we want to get a sense of mission from God, and commit to doing whatever that mission requires.

So, how do we get a sense of mission?  The best way is to get in the motion of serving people.  Right now, today.  Start asking the Lord for a burden, for a heart that breaks for people going through a rough time.  And go find opportunities to serve them.  Then, talk through these experiences with God and your pastor.

It may take a minute, but, out of this, I bet you’ll begin to develop a sense of calling and purpose for your life.  I bet you’ll begin to feel a mission welling up within you.

Well, when that happens, it’s time to figure out what the mission requires.  Maybe we need a college degree; maybe we don’t.  If we need it, we find a way to get one, and we don’t take “no” for an answer.  There are a lot of ways to go to college in the world today.  If you keep pounding on doors, one of them will budge eventually.

But that sense of mission needs to come first.  Otherwise, it’s dang near impossible to keep going in the face of trouble and adversity.  And that makes sense: No one’s willing to suffer for no reason.

I’d start getting in the motion of serving others and seeking that sense of mission in your life.  And as you and the Lord develop that, I think the next steps will become clear.

More on Discerning God’s Will

walkingonmypath asked you:
How can i know my will comes from the God’s will? Recently, i have feelings that God may want me to serve in specific vocation. However, the vacancy in this field is quite few. It means i may have to wait for the vacancy and compete with others. So, how can i know this feeling comes from God? I worry about that If it is not God’s will, my waiting will become a wasting of time. Thanks.

Jed Brewer replied:

Hey Mandy!

Good to hear from you, sis.

This is a great question.  I wrote a post a little bit ago directly on this topic, and you can check it out here:

http://jedbrewer.tumblr.com/post/12382456450/how-do-i-know-if-its-gods-will-or-just-my-desires

Take a second to go read that, and then come back here.  I’ll wait for you.

Ok.  Now, given everything you just read, I think the thing we want to add here is that part of discerning God’s voice is getting yourself – and your fears – out of the way.

I think what I hear you describing in your question is that you’ve found something you’re excited about, but daunted and intimidated by at the same time.  For what it’s worth, that’s normal.

First, congratulations on finding something you’re excited about!  That’s fantastic!

Second, most things worth doing are hard and daunting.  Christian talk about “waiting for an open door”, but, in truth, when you read the Bible, you see a lot of stories about Godly men and women kicking the dang door down, and walking on through.

That said, a difficult path doesn’t in any way mean it’s not what God wants for you.  But, what we can be sure of is that God has wisdom to give you on the subject.  And you clearly want that wisdom, which is awesome!

As I said, the challenge is to get your fears out of the way.  The reason you need to do that is that God speaks in a gentle whisper.  And fear, anxiety, and insecurity scream really loud.

So, how do we do that?  Good question.  Some people think best when they’re writing.  Some people think best when they’re talking.  So, grab either your journal or a trusted friend, and do the following: get it all out.

To start, pour out everything you’re afraid of about this new job prospect.  Fear of failure.  Fear of the unknown.  Fear of success.  Fear of leaving.  Fear of staying.  Get it all out on the table.

Next, get your hopes out on the table.  What you want it to look like.  What you’re excited about.  What it would be if all of your wildest dreams came true.

After that, get out what you’re afraid God’s will would be.  If God was mean and didn’t like you and agreed with all the terrible things you think about yourself, get out in the open what he would say about this.  (It’s ok to admit it, God already knows.)

Good.  Now you’ve gotten all of your thoughts, fears and concerns out in the open.  So, go for a walk, clear your head, drink a cup of coffee.

Then sit down, just you and the Lord, and ask for wisdom in Jesus’ name.  Be still before the Lord, and expect him to speak.  Repeat this process as many times as you like, and I think you’ll be shocked how, when you get everything out of your system, and quiet yourself before the Lord, that the things that come to mind in that moment are shockingly consistent.  Compare them with the truth of scripture, and then boldly walk forward.

How Do I Manage My Relationships?

purposeinlove asked you:
How do I know which friendships to keep or let go of?

Jed Brewer replied:

Hey sis,

That’s a great question.

In any relationship, either you’re influencing them, or they’re influencing you.  (And if you’re not sure which way it’s going, the odds are that you’re the one being influenced.)

We become like the people that influence us.  So, if you take a look at your friends and figure out which ones are influencing you, the question is: are these people that you want to be like?

If they aren’t, then it may be time to re-evaluate or, as you said, let go of that relationship, at least in its current form. 

To the positive, though, if you have a friend that’s a good influence on you, and is pointing you in a direction to be more Godly and joyful and peaceful, maybe we want to not only keep that relationship strong, but maybe we want to make it a higher priority in our life.

I should note that, when I speak of friendships, I’m speaking of two-way relationships.  In other words, you encourage them, and they encourage you.  You seek them out, and they seek you out. 

There are plenty of relationships, however, that are one-way.  You seek them out, and not vice versa.  You encourage them, and not vice versa. 

Well, here, with one-way relationships, we’re really beginning to describe ministerial relationships.  And, in that case, it’s not so much about keeping versus letting go, as it is prioritizing.

In your one-way relationships, I bet you have some folks that really respond to your encouragement and are working things out in their walk with the Lord.  They should be your priority.  By contrast, I bet you have some other folks that are pretty well content to take up your time and energy and attention, and make essentially zero changes in their life.  We don’t need to judge the folks in that camp – we’ve all been there at one time or another – but we’ll want to make them, for now, a lower priority.

Eventually, the folks that are sitting still will be ready for something new in life, and they’ll let you know that, and at that point, you move them up the priority scale.  In the meantime, focus your attention on the folks that are making the hard choices to move forward in their walk.

I’m glad you’re being conscientious about the relationships in your life.  As you intentionally cultivate strong friendships with good influences, and good ministry relationships with folks ready for change, you’ll really like what you see.

I’m Having A Hard Time Figuring Out What God Wants Me To Do WIth My Life - Help!

Anonymous asked:
I feel as if i’m doing something wrong. i pray to God about how he wants to use me as an instrument to help others, and what he wants from me to serve him in my life. i’m seeking but feel like he answers all my questions, besides this one. could you pray for me pretty pease maybe I’m not doing it right.

Jed Brewer replied:

Hey my friend,

The crazy thing about the voice of God is that he speaks in a whisper.

Here’s a really cool Bible passage:

“The LORD said [to the prophet Elijah], “Go out and stand on the mountain in the presence of the LORD, for the LORD is about to pass by.”
   Then a great and powerful wind tore the mountains apart and shattered the rocks before the LORD, but the LORD was not in the wind. After the wind there was an earthquake, but the LORD was not in the earthquake. After the earthquake came a fire, but the LORD was not in the fire. And after the fire came a gentle whisper. When Elijah heard it, he pulled his cloak over his face and went out and stood at the mouth of the cave.” (1 Kings 19:11-13, NIV)

Elijah covered his face because it was said that no man could see God and live.  And it was when he heard the “gentle whisper” that Elijah knew God was in the house.

This is important because, often, we want God to bowl us over, to give us a huge and miraculous, undeniable sign to guide our way.  But God doesn’t work this way, and part of why he doesn’t work this way is that there’s no such thing as an undeniable sign.  A person who refuses to see is irretrievably blind.  (This theme comes up often in the Bible.)

No, God whispers, and gently.  Paul says that God doesn’t push us around, but that, instead, he moves gently and deeply within us (Ephesians 3:20, MSG).  So, my question to you, my friend, is: what moves you?

I’d encourage you to try a variety of means of serving other people, and see what resonates with you.  You may find that what stirs you is fighting for justice for the oppressed.  Or that it’s providing for the physical needs of people who are doing without.  It may be offering the comfort of God’s love to the downtrodden and discouraged that moves you. 

But I’m betting that you’ll find something that does move you.  Pursue it.  Find out where they do that thing, and go there, and do it with them.  (So, if it’s fighting for justice for the oppressed, find the free legal clinic in your city, and go volunteer.)

A smart man once said that it’s easier to steer a ship in motion.  When we think about discovering our calling, this is great advice.  It’s nigh on to impossible to figure out your calling while sitting still.  But, as you get into the motion of serving others in Jesus’ name, and combine that with Godly counsel and listening to the Lord in prayer, I think you’ll find, step by step, the path starts to become more clear.

One thing I know for certain: God has a plan for you, and it’s awesome.  He’s honored by the fact that you are pursuing Him and your calling, and he’s not going to waste that.  Start walking, and let Him guide the direction.

What’s the Difference Between Discernment and Judgement?

If you talked to a random cross-section of non-Christians, and asked them what Christians aren’t supposed to be doing, you would get a nearly unanimous response: “Don’t judge!”

Folks who don’t know anything else about the Bible can correctly quote this verse: “Judge not, lest ye be judged.” (Matthew 7:1)  It’s such common knowledge that folks on the streets wear “Only God Can Judge Me” tattoos, and Tupac rapped about it.

Christians, generally, respond to all this by falling into one of two camps.  Camp 1 ignores the verse entirely.  They protest loudly, picket funerals, pound their angry fists on their antique Bibles, and go on news programs to deliver antagonistic proclamations without a hint of mercy or grace.

Camp 2 recognizes that, in fact, no, they shouldn’t be judging people.  And they try to make sure they don’t.  And they try so hard to not judge that they end up losing something else in the process.   And that something is “discernment.”

A far less-well-known verse from the Bible is this one: “And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best .” (Phil 1:9-10)

Judgment, as it turns out, is about rendering a verdict – and a condemnation – on a person.  It’s about declaring that a person is bad and can’t be helped.  Discernment, on the other hand, is about understanding a situation, and whether or not that situation is a good one.

I’ll give you an example.  Let’s say you’re feeling a little under the weather, and you go to the doctor.  You wait in the tiny room with the paper-covered bench, you don’t have any pants on, and then the Doc comes in.  He uses the stethoscope, makes you stick out your tongue, and at last says, with disgust, “All you sickies are the same.  Bunch of disease-factories, if you ask me.  And what’d you do to get sick, eh?  You know what: just get out of my office.”

Well, now, this would be judgment.  And, as you can tell, it’s neither very nice nor very helpful. 

Let’s try again.  Doc comes in.  Stethoscope.  Tongue.  Ahh.  And he says: “Hey, bro, you’ve got a body, and it’s your body, and, hey, bro, whatever your body needs to do, however it needs to be, that’s cool.  I celebrate your body.  ‘Cause every body is unique.  And, sometimes, a body just wants to cough up blood.  That’s cool with me.  If that’s your choice, bro, I support that, and I think it’s great.”

Well, now, I bet you can see the problem here immediately.  Yes, he has been very nonjudgmental.  He also hasn’t fixed anything.  I didn’t go to the doctor to get affirmed in my personhood; I went ‘cause I didn’t feel good.

Let’s try one more time.  Small room.  No pants.  Say ahh.  And the doctor speaks.

“Ok, well, it looks like you’ve got a fairly mild case of strep throat.  It’s not bad at the moment, but we’ll want to knock it out so it doesn’t get worse.  I’m going to write you a prescription for antibiotics, and you’ll need to take these daily for the next three weeks.  And you should be all good.”

Amazing!  Here’s what just happened.  First, the doctor didn’t judge me.  He didn’t label me as a bad person and hopeless.  He simply looked at what was going wrong in my situation.  “You have an infection in your respiratory system.”  And he was prepared to help me fix it.  He gave me the steps, the know-how, and the resources to do just that. 

Well, now, all of this applies directly to being a Christian, and ministering to others.  As you know, you should not ever judge or condemn people.  But, in order to minister to people, to love them the way Jesus did, you do need to be able to discern what is going on with their situation.

As an example, if you knew a person who struggled with cowardice, and that person wanted to move forward in their life as a Christian, it would be an unloving thing to pretend they didn’t struggle with cowardice.  We can’t fix what we won’t look at. 

But if we’re willing to turn on our discernment, and look at the situation, yes, we’ll have to acknowledge that cowardly behavior is going on.  However, we may quickly discover that the root of it is understandable, and the fix is much easier than we’d expect.

Our friend may struggle with cowardice because that’s what was modeled by his parents.  Maybe they behaved in a cowardly fashion, and that’s all he’s ever really seen.  That doesn’t really leave him room to feel bad about it, and it’s certainly not something to look down our noses at him about. 

So, we help our friend find little moments of bravery in his life.  Asking that girl out.  Telling the boss he can’t work this weekend.  Going down to the homeless shelter and serving soup. 

And, as our friend takes these little steps, perhaps that cowardice begins to fall to the side, and the courageous man the Lord created begins to emerge.  This is what happens when we love well, friends, when our love is couple with insight, and discernment.  We didn’t judge, but we didn’t turn a blind eye, either.

And that friend, who is discovering a new freedom, boldness, and vitality in his life?  I promise that he has no complaints.

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Hey Everybody,

This is a re-post of song we wrote for our Women’s Ministry.  Enjoy!

Jed

I Don’t Need A Man

I don’t need a man
To make me feel secure
Cause I’ve got a protector
And His name is The Lord

I don’t need a man
To tell me I’m alright
Cause I am in God’s hands
And they always hold me tight

Jesus, I get lonely
And my feelings get so strong
But you are what I’m needing
And have been all along

I don’t need a man
To make me feel complete
Cause Jesus makes me whole
And who I was made to be

I don’t need a man
To tell me what I’m worth
Cause just so He could have me
My God came down to earth

I don’t need a man
To tell me I look good
Cause God tells me today
That He’s made me beautiful

I don’t need a man
To tell me who I am
Cause I’m my Daddy’s girl
And my Daddy rules the world