skyscraperstojesus asked you:
Hi Jed, I have been debating something for awhile and i can’t seem to figure out what to do. I am in high school and want to pursure a career in fashion. I don’t know what God wants me to do, but I want to do what he wants. How do I know if what I want is what he wants? Is it selfish to have a career in fashion instead of say, doing missionary work?
Jed Brewer replied:
This is a great question, and I like the way you’re asking it, and the angles you’re already seeing related to it.
So, there’s something you want to do. There’s something God wants you to do. We aren’t sure if those are the same, and we aren’t sure if our desires are selfish to begin with. OK, makes sense.
As a thought experiment, let’s ask this: how would you feel if God came to you on a cloud and said, “I am specifically calling you enter the world of fashion and be a light for me there.” Could you be OK with that?
See, for a lot of people, they figure that something they like, something they have a passion for, can’t be what God wants for them. That would be too easy! But God isn’t in the business of crushing dreams. He’s in the business of guiding and shaping those dreams into something far more incredible than what the dreamer thought was possible.
I am certain God does not want you to enter the world of fashion and sit there like a rock. But what about working in the fashion world and showing people what God’s love looks like in action? What about pointing folks who are struggling with drug addiction and eating disorders and crippling insecurity and narcissism to The Lord, and being his hands and feet in that process? Now we’re talking!
Here’s a thought I’d encourage you to mediate on: anything plus love can change the world. Absolutely anything. Being a plumber. A fashion designer. An architect. A model. If you add God’s love to that vocation, it can become something sacred and redemptive.
You don’t need to have all the answers up front. It’s ok to know that you love God and dig fashion and take that a step at a time. If you keep yourself open to God’s leading, step by step, you’ll find him directing your paths. In fact, he promises to do so:
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.” (Proverbs 3:5-6)
That trusting and submitting is a day-by-day process. We do that a little bit at a time. And God really will guide you to what he has for you.
But, today, the thing before you is accepting that God made you the kind of gal that loves him and likes haute couture and that that is just right. Cause, sis, it really is.