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Habitual Sin - What It Doesn’t Mean

Bless their hearts, but Christians manage to say a whole lot of stupid stuff when it comes to the subject of habitual sin.  Here are some paraphrases of actual things I’ve heard Christians say on the subject…

“If you’re not willing to stop sinning, you shouldn’t even call yourself a Christian.”

“The answer to habitual sin is to just stop it.”

“If you’re stuck in habitual sin, you should question whether or not you’re really saved.”

Wow.

Now, I bet you’ve heard some of those same ideas before.  And I bet, just maybe, they freaked you out.  That’s kind of the point, of course – to try and scare you into changing behavior.

But let’s take those item by item.  “If you’re not willing to stop sinning, you shouldn’t even call yourself a Christian.”  There’s a few problems here.  First, Christians don’t claim to be sinless – quite the contrary, in fact!  1 John says, “If we claim to be without sin, we lie and the truth is not in us.” 

Second, if you actually talk to a person struggling with a habitual sin (instead, of, you know, yelling at them), what you’re almost certain to find is that they are very willing to stop sinning.  They just don’t know how to do it.  I work with a whole lot of people stuck in habitual sin, and, consistently, they hate the thing, they don’t want to do the thing, they’ve tried all kinds of stuff to not do the thing, and nothing has worked.  Willingness is not the problem.

That brings us to the second idea.  “The answer to habitual sin is to just stop it.”  Only someone who has never faced down something impossible would say this.  I don’t know about you, but, my sinfulness is too big for me.  It’s almost like I need a savior.  Paul – the guy who wrote most of the New Testament – had the same experience:

“For what I do is not the good I want to do; no, the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing…What a wretched man I am! Who will rescue me from this body of death?” (Romans 7:19,24)

Paul’s answer to this was that he needed Jesus Christ to change him.  That his will power wasn’t enough.  He wrote about this in the book of Galatians, when he chastised the folks there for trying to live the Christian life “by human effort.”  (Gal 3:3)

One of the ways that Jesus changes us is to give us wisdom about what’s driving us to that sin in the first place.  For a lot of folks reading this, their sin of habit is pornography.  And they feel really guilty about it.  But very few of them have every thought and prayed on the question, “What’s driving me to look at this in the first place?”

As a quick example, a big motivator for a lot of folks is that they use pornography as a stress release.  Well, now, if we want to move past porno, we’d need to learn how to live a lower-stress life and what Godly, healthy stress relievers look like.  But we’d never come to that point if we’d clenched our teeth and decided to “just stop it” in our own strength.

So, let’s look at that last bad idea.  “If you’re stuck in habitual sin, you should question whether or not you’re really saved.”

No, no you shouldn’t.  Here’s what the Bible says: “Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.” (Romans 10:13)  If you’ve said, “Jesus, I’m a sinner, and I’m asking you forgive me and take control of my life and heart,” you’re as saved as saved can be, and nothing can change that, now or ever.

As I said at the beginning, there are a lot of Christians who say dumb stuff on this topic, and, as we say in the south, bless their hearts.  Some of them, I am certain, mean well.  They do.  They know that sin is bad – and it is.  They know that God doesn’t want us to sin – and He doesn’t.

But these Christians are confused about how we move past a sin.  The truth, as we were just saying, is that we do so piece by piece, bit by bit, with wisdom guiding the journey.  Human willpower and gritted teeth don’t lead to changed lives.

The second thing, though, that our well-meaning brothers and sisters are confused about, is the nature of God’s forgiveness.  The truth is that it just doesn’t run out.

Jesus said that, if your brother wrongs you the same way seven times in a single day, you should forgive him. (Luke 17:4)  And, further, that you should be prepared to forgive the same person 70 times 7 times. (Matthew 18:22)  And the Bible tells us that our forgiveness of others is to mirror God’s forgiveness of us. (Ephesians 4:32)

What all this means is that God has an impossibly high ability to forgive us.  Which is good, because we have an impossibly high ability to sin.  And isn’t that exactly what the Bible says?  “Where sin increased, grace increased all the more.” (Romans 5:20)

If you’re struggling with habitual sin, first, welcome to being human and a Christian.  We’ve all been there.  Second, relax for a minute.  God’s not gonna let you go.  Take a deep breath and be still.  Then, start asking God for wisdom.  Seek out some older Christians who don’t have a stick up their butt.  Seek the Lord on what’s driving the sin areas in your life.  And, step by step, begin to address those behind-the-scenes problems, and you will begin to see God changing your life right in front of you.